(We Partially Wrote & Arranged Our Wedding Vows & Wedding Service)
From our decision to "write our own vows," came such a greater and deeper understanding of marriage per se, and of each other. I would highly recommend it to everyone. You may learn just how much more wonderful your future mate is, or you may discover things you didn't know which are not acceptable to you.
I thought I knew what marriage was all about, but through the process of trying to put our views about life, marriage and each other into words, I learned so much more than I could have imagined. Especially since we also wanted to write some of the service and arrange how things would go.
We looked at library books and bought books about words for weddings, and about the how's and why's of wedding services. We had to make it sort of conform to a wedding "form" and various steps that are usual and customary to a church wedding, and to ask the pastor to approve it since we wrote some of the words he was to say.
I particularly, didn't want him to say things that I strongly disagreed with or interject his own random humor and the like. I have seen this done at real and movie weddings.
It's so easy to go in to a marriage assuming the other person wants the same things you do, or believes the same things about life and marriage that you do. Writing your vows together, could shake things up a bit, but could maybe make a more solid beginning !
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